A best friend????

I have a very good friend who has an AWESOME relationship with her husband.  She even refers to him as her best friend.  I love to see them together, they are so awe inspiring.  I am jealous.  I am jealous of the relationship that they have.  Dan and I love each other, but we are far from being best friends.  how is it possible that you can be with someone for 13 years plus and not be their best friend?

Dan and I have had some really bad times and some really good times.  We only dated for about 6 months before we got married and did not have time to develop what you would call a friendship.  Now looking back, I wish we had more time to get to know each other as people instead of a lover.  Just being honest.  I love Dan because he takes such good care of us, but I feel so alone in our relationship.  I try to fill that void by busying myself with other projects, but it is not working.  How do you become best friends with someone that you do not have anything in common with?? 

I often refer to myself as a single married mom, and truthfully, I am.  I take care of everything.  The other day we had a tiff and he just told me to take care of it.  Where do I go with that?  I know this sounds whiny and bitch, but where do I turn?  Is it possible to become best friends with your partner after so many years of no communication and one person doing everything to keep the relationship alive?

I do not know the answer to this question, but I do know that this is my new mission.  I am going to become best friends with my husband because I love him.  God grant me the peace and patience to accomplish this marriage saving task.